Comment se libérer de la dépendance affective ?

  1. Faire preuve de prudence et d’observation avant de commencer une relation amoureuse avec une personne qui peut nous faire souffrir dû à une incompatibilité psychologique.
  2. Aimer de manière mature et consciente.
  3. Ne jamais oublier qu’être dans une relation amoureuse n’implique pas de perdre son identité.
  4. Éviter les relations puériles et égocentriques.
  5. S’efforcer de devenir la personne que nous aimerions être dans nos relations aux autres.
  6. Renforcer l’estime de soi pour éliminer la dépendance affective.
  7. Apprendre à être seul et à atteindre l’équilibre personnel.

Sinumva impamvu

Kugeza uyumunsi sindumva impamvu umutima wanjye ukikumbaza,sindumva impamvu ntakurekura,sindumva impamvu ntakurakarira,Sindumva impamvu ntakuzinukwa,sindumva impamvu ntaguha amahoro yawe nk’uko mbona uyashaka,Mbwira,mfasha mbimenye,mfasha menye impamvu!

Nagukunze mugihe numvaga ko ntashobora kongera gukunda,igihe numvaga nararangije gutanga urukundo nifitemo ariko byabaye nka magie mera nk’akana kagitangira gukunda,birankundira ndatwarwa mva ku isi njya mu ijuru rito,urukundo rurandyohera.Uwabivuga bwakwira bugacya!

Uko byaje niko byagiye ndabibabwira ndi umuhamya wabyo,byabaye nk’ijoro ricyeye,haza umunsi mushya.Ninjira mugihe cyanjye cy’amaganya,ndarira,ndahogora,nshyiramo imbaraga zose zishoboka ngo nkugarure biranga.Rimwe narimwe nkumva ubuzima bwashaririye,ibintu nkabicurika ,mera nk’uwabuze icyerekezo,nkajya nibaza niba arinjyewe bikanyobera,ibintu byoseeeeeee by’ingenzi narimbifite ariko nkumva umutima wanjye urabura ikintu gikomeye.Ikibabaje kinakomeye ni uko ntamuntu washoboraga kubibona cyangwa ngo amfashe gutura uwo mutwaro nari nikoreye.

Rimwe nicaye ntuje mbaza Imana anti: kuki mbabara kandi ntacyo wanyimye?kuki umutima wanjye uremerewe kandi ariwowe ushobora kuwuruhura,nti kuki ndi kwitetesha mbabara kandi warampaye impamvu nyinshi zo guseka?nti ariko ndananiwe,nanijwe no kurota umuntu nkunda mbona we atakunda,nanijwe no kugendana agahinda k’umutima kuko umutima wanjye uhorana ubushye,urababuka,urashenguka uko mutekereje,uko mubonye,uko mbona adashobora kumpa urukundo nk’uko yabinsezeranyije, akagenda atanambwiye impamvu,mbona ntanicyizere cy’uko nzongera kwishima nkambere.Nibabjije byinshi byinshi byinshi bishoboka ariko sinabona igisubizo.

Imana nayisezeranyije ibintu byinshi cyane nzakora niyemera ikomora umutima wanjye,ngasubirana inseko yanjye,nkongera ngakunda ubuzima bwanjye cyane kurushaho,nkarekura ibyo nanze kurekura,nkayiharira igakora akazi kayo.Nabaye ahooooooo ntegereje ko Imana ikora ibyo nayisabye ndaheba,ndakomeza nkunda urudashoboka,ndakomeza mbabazwa n’urukundo.Naje gufata bible ndasoma mugitabo (cy’Umubwiriza 5:3) Haranditse ngo: “Nuhigira Imana ,ntugatinde kuzuza umuhigo wawe,kuko idakunda abapfayongo;icyo wahigiye ujye ugikora”.Nuko rero mpita ntangira gushyira mubikorwa ibyo nahize nizerako isengesho ryanjye rizasubizwa.

Nongeye menya  by’ukuri ko ari Imana yonyine ifite ijambo ryanyuma,Niyo yonyine itanga urukundo rw’ukuri,Niyo yonyine yomora imitima,Niyo yonyine isoza ijambo yavuze,Niyo yonyine  idahemuka,Niyo yonyine idashwanyaguza umutima,Niyo yonyine itanga ihumure,Niyo yonyine yo kwizerwa,Niyo yonyine ikubikira ibanga,Niyo yonyine itishyira hejuru,Niyo ikwizeza ibitangaza bigakorwa,Niyo yoyonyine itakumvira ubusa.

Izere,kunda,emerera,Imana yonyine abe ariyo igenga ubuzima bwawe.Ibindi uzabibona nk’umugereka.

Haranira kutajya kure yayo! Byose Birashoboka!

Show love to those whom you think don’t deserve it.

Normally when someone else is negative towards you or about you, it’s likely that these people lack something in their own life that prevent them from truly loving themselves. If you see this before you react, and put yourself in their shoes, it can help you in the situation because you know deep inside it is more to do with them than with you. It’s here where you decide to give unconditional love and give it more frequently.

Being this way will provide a good pay off for the toxic people around you, but most importantly, for you, too.

Learn to celebrate yourself

“When nobody celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.” – Joel Osteen